Hope For Imperfect Marriages: Part 1

How Can Wives Contribute To Creating A Strong Marriage?

Tim Lundy
May 27, 2019    39m
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In the first part of this message on marriage, we will explore what the Bible tells us about a wife's role in marriage. Though written in a different culture and time, Paul provides advice for wives which can be applied to our culture and time to create a strong and Godly marriage. Video recorded at Los Gatos, California.

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Tim Lundy (00:00):
Well, it's good to see everyone today. It's been great to worship together. What a great time to be a church family. And I just want to say publicly how much I appreciate Tina's testimony and all who over the course of this month have shared different testimonies for really what I think is an incredible ministry in our church, Living with Hope and Mental Health. And I would encourage you, as you heard in that story, that you're not whatever you're struggling with. That's not the definition of who you are. And this is a place where you could share that together and we can be the family of God together. In fact, before we dive into the message, I just want to take a minute. Will you pray with me? Let's just pray together. Father, we do thank you. We thank you that in our brokenness, in our struggles, no matter what it is, you meet us there. We thank you that there's grace, that there's hope in Christ, that even as we just sang, He is our living hope.

Tim Lundy (01:06):
Lord, I thank you that you are a God who has given us a church where together we can share life. We can share the struggles of life. We can share the imperfections of all our relationships. And even now as we turn to your Word, we pray that your truth would speak. Lord, I pray that you would speak through me. Protect my words, that I would speak truth that represents you well. And I pray these things in Christ's name. Amen.

Tim Lundy (01:34):
You know, we've been looking at No Perfect Family. All different family relationships, people in the family of God, people in family dynamics. And over the next couple of weeks, we want to look at the fact that there's no perfect marriage. It's just a reality of life. Now, some marriages start better than others. In fact, I read the story of a young man who at the rehearsal, pulled the minister aside and he said, hey, I want to make a deal with you. You know, tomorrow when you get to that whole part of the vows, you know, the love and the cherish to one person, the whole life. I want you to just cut that part out when it comes to me. And he slipped the minister a hundred dollar bill. And the next day during the ceremony, as it came to the vows, the minister looked at the young man and he said, I want to ask you, will you promise to kneel before your new bride every day, obey her every commanded wish, serve her breakfast in bed every morning of your life and swear eternally before God and your lovely wife that you will not ever even look at another woman as long as you both shall live. The young man kind of gulped. Yes, I do. And he leaned in and he said, I thought we had a deal. The minister handed him his hundred dollars and said, she made me a better offer.

Tim Lundy (03:10):
Now, hopefully, if you are married, your relationship started better than that. But if you've been married any length of time, very quickly, you know there's no perfect marriage. Now, some of you, maybe you're still in that first window that you think you're really close though. You know, sometimes when I'm doing marriage counseling, premarital counseling especially, you'll get a young couple and it's been scientifically proven. There's about an 18 month window where your brain just gets flooded with basically just love hormones that you just think it's going to be this way for the rest of your life. And you can tell when a couple's in that. They just look at each other and you'll try to counsel them about problems they're going to have in the future. And they kind of get this look like, well, that's other people. We have a relationship beyond all.

Tim Lundy (04:00):
And I always kind of, you know, shut it down pretty quick after that. I'm like, yeah, see me in a year and a half. Let's wait for the chemicals to wear off. And you look up one day and you realize, wait, I'm married to a person. There's no perfect marriage because there's no perfect people. And the longer you're in it, the more you realize it. And the hard part is you may think it's just a season. If we just get through this first season or we get through these first years, we'll get through having newborns or we get through having kids. Every season has a different challenge that taxes us in different ways. So for the next couple of weeks, and I'll go ahead and tell you in your notes, we're only going to cover half this week. So some of you that kind of track the clock based on how far the pastor is in the notes and you get panicky if I don't get very far in them with a lot of time, not much time left, we're only going to cover half this week.

Tim Lundy (04:53):
This week we want to look at three core issues for wives, three core issues. And these are the words of an old married man, Peter. Peter who was married addresses husbands and wives. And he's talking about all the family relationships and how we address and how we live together. And there's so much you can say about marriage, but I really want to drill down on three core issues that I think especially produce some tension in this relationship and it can be a struggle. Read with me starting in 1 Peter 3. 1 Peter 3, he says, likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands so that even if some do not obey the Word, they may be one without a word by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful and pure conduct. And now he comes right out of the gate. Peter doesn't pull any punches. And I'll just say, there's a lot about this passage, about this week and next week that can feel very counter-cultural. And so part of it is trying to understand what's the culture he's writing it in, but also part of it is understanding what is he saying in a very direct way.

Tim Lundy (06:08):
He's addressing wives here, some of which whose husbands are not believers. They're not even Christians. And so part of it is as this church is forming and they write to these different ones, how do you live in this relationship, especially if your husband's not even a Christian? How do you live this out? He continues on with it. Do not let your adorning be external, the braiding of hair, the putting on of gold jewelry and the clothing you wear. Now, this is not a prohibition against any jewelry or makeup with it. But he is pointing out is that that the greatest thing that you're defined by? Or as he continues on in the passage, let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. I love that phrase. Imperishable beauty. Man, if you could bottle imperishable beauty, you could make a fortune today.

Tim Lundy (07:04):
But he says there actually is a beauty that never perishes, that never ages. It's the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which in God's sight is very precious for this is how the Holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands as Sarah obeyed Abram calling him Lord. And you are her children if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Now, let me just stop for a minute. Just let the passage sink in. If you've grown up or been around the church a lot, you may read that and you go, okay. Yeah. I've heard that quite a bit. If you've not been in church much, you may hear that and look at it and go, whoa, that's pretty counter-cultural from what you hear today.

Tim Lundy (07:58):
Or maybe if you're younger, you go, how do you live that out in the 21st century? How does this work? Let me look at these according to three issues that I think Peter's really highlighting. And I'll just say at the outset, they're not easy in all these cases. It's not like, oh, you understand it more and you go, oh, okay. Now that you explained it, that is so simple. I'll just tell you at your very core, this will always be something that you struggle with. You'll always need God to be working in you and through you to really live this out. Look at the first issue. First issue for wives is the issue around partnership. God is designed a marriage partnership and in any organization, any partnership, you have to have order in that. And so part of what he's describing in this partnership for the wife, are you willing to recognize and support your husband's leadership? Are you willing to recognize and the leadership role that God's given your husband?

Tim Lundy (09:00):
And in that, you need to just embrace this as a very unique partnership. Now, let me give you a few things of what this does not mean. Peter uses a couple of terms in there. Uses the word submit. He uses the word be subject. Those are terms we usually use today in a very harsh context. I mean the only place you really hear submission now is an MMA ring, mixed martial arts. One of the key ways that you beat your opponent is you get them to submit. You don't hear that term in a lot of other contexts. Peter certainly doesn't mean it in that way. He does not mean in this, and let me give you a few things around this in this partnership. It does not mean that as a woman, you're subject or you're supposed to submit to every man out there. Again, he's talking about marriage. It's a very unique partnership. This doesn't apply in a work setting. Doesn't apply in any other social setting that as a woman by design, since he's the man, he's supposed to be in charge. That's not what Peter's saying. Again, guys, you got to define it where he's defining it. He's just talking about the marriage relationship. He says in this marriage relationship, there's a unique partnership.

Tim Lundy (10:09):
Secondly, he's not saying that you have to totally agree with him on every issue. Remember even in the passage, he's writing wives, some of which whose husbands are not Christians. They've made a fundamental choice they're going to follow Christ despite what their husbands said. Now, when Peter wrote that, very counter-cultural. In fact, a lot of the households of that day, you had one belief system, whatever the husband believed. And so it was just determined, whatever the husband believed, everybody else in the household, that is your religion. That's what you believe. That's how the culture was set up. So even by design, Peter's coming out of the gate going, uh-uh, you don't go with just what he believes. You're going to answer to God. And so even in that, it's not an agreement with everything he says.

Tim Lundy (10:59):
Third, it doesn't give him free reign. Leadership has never a license to do what you like. Leadership has never a license to do what you like. If anything, here's what he's asking wives to do. He's asking them, do you recognize God's sovereignty? And do you believe that God actually has a design in the marriage and He's made him in certain ways and He's made you in certain ways? And part of the ways that He's made him, He's made him and He's called him and He commissions him, and we'll talk about this next week, that he has to step forward and lead in some certain ways in his home. And God has not only made him, He's wired him in a way, ladies, I don't know how to describe it to you. When a man's role is not recognized and when his wife doesn't support him in that, it takes his legs out from under him in a way. It just does.

Tim Lundy (11:58):
And part of that is because of what God's calling him do. Part of that is how he's wired. Now, when I say that, and guys, this is where I think we've just got to recognize there's a lot of fear around this teaching because this teaching has been so abused in the past and it's been abused by the church, by the way. You can go through history and I can quote you the places where I think this teaching's been abused, where women have been kept in context that they shouldn't have been, where women have been abused that they shouldn't have been. Instead of the church being the place that stepped forward and said, no, you don't treat them that way, too often they were kept in a context because they were told they've got to submit no matter what because that's how God designed it. And frankly, that's not true

Tim Lundy (12:45):
Because leadership in God's Kingdom is never that way. When you look at the Kingdom of God, leadership in God's Kingdom is never about the use of power to subjugate. It's never that way. In fact, Jesus said as much when He was talking about it. He says in the world's kingdom, rulers, people in charge set themselves up to lord over. He said in my Kingdom, leaders are the ones that serve. So don't you think if God's describing marriage and the marriage relationship and He calls the husband to lead, one of the core things He's going to ask him to do as a leader is to serve? Not to subjugate, not to lord over. But to serve. That's what it looks like in Jesus' Kingdom. By the way, that's what it looks like in marriages that follow Jesus. It's difficult. It's hard. It's how He called it.

Tim Lundy (13:47):
See, leadership in God's Kingdom are always around serving and accountability. That's the other half of it. There's some things that as men, when we stand before Jesus, we'll have to give an account for our marriage. We'll have to give an account how we used our leadership. We'll have to give an account of spiritually, how we led our household. In fact, we see it all the way back in the garden. Remember when God confronted Adam and Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve both ate the fruit. Who did God call out? Adam. Who did God confront first? Adam. In fact, it's interesting to me, as you read through the Bible, the person that's attributed as the source of sin entering the world is Adam. But you look at the book of Romans. Romans describes it in Romans 5. It says through one man, he's talking about Adam, sin came into the world. Through one man, salvation came, through Christ. Because there's an accountability that's there. I would say I think one of the main reasons that women often bristle at even any of this terminology is because of what they've experienced.

Tim Lundy (14:59):
It's interesting years ago, Andy Stanley was in a wedding. He's about 26 years old. Andy's a pastor. He teaches down in Atlanta. And he was in a wedding and he was out with the bridesmaids and the groomsmen. They were out. They were all at a bar, kind of celebrating the night before. And he's kind of listening to them talk around the table. And one of them says, now you're a pastor, aren't you? And the bride even said that. Do you believe that whole, you know, submission stuff? You really believe a woman's supposed to do that? Listen what he said to her. I like his description. He said to her, before I answer your question, I just want you to imagine you're married to a man who genuinely believes you're the most fantastic person on the planet. He's crazy about you. You have no doubt that your happiness is his top priority. He listens to you when you talk. He honors you in public. To you use an old fashioned term, he cherishes you. He's not afraid to make a decision. He values your opinion. He leads, but he listens. He's responsible. He's not argumentative. You have no doubt that he would give his life for you if the need arose.

Tim Lundy (16:09):
You never worry about him being unfaithful. In fact, he only has eyes for you. He said, as he started describing it, he could feel every one of the bridesmaids kind of leaning in. And he looked up and he said, so would you have a problem following a man like that? One of the girls said, where is he? Now here's his point in it. He said, it's easy, perhaps it's even natural to submit to someone who genuinely has your best interests in mind. There's no fear. You don't have to put up your walls and resist. The person who has your best interest in mind has chosen to use their position and leverage their life for your best. That's what God's calling husbands to do by the way. But to do that, well, you have to recognize and you have to support him in it. And the reality is he knows when you do and he also knows when you don't. A man knows it in his soul.

Tim Lundy (17:40):
Now this isn't easy because remember sin came into the world. And part of the struggle with sin is we both want control. Remember what said to Eve in Genesis 3 after sin came? He said, your desire shall be contrary to your husband. In other words, you're going to want to control him. You're going to want to be the one in charge. At your worst, you'll manipulate him. At his worse, he'll rule over you. He'll use his power to rule over you. Now, again, God's not describing this as it should be. He's describing the very real struggle that we experience in that. And part of bringing a marriage forward and seeing God redeem it and seeing God change it is recognizing this role. Okay, God's called him in a leadership role in a way that sometimes it's hard. Doesn't mean we're not equal. This isn't an inequality passage. Doesn't mean that certain responsibilities he has to do and she can't do. The Bible doesn't prescribe those things. It does mean at a core, fundamental level, he's going to give an account before God, and he's called to leverage his life for your best interest. And you're called recognizing that he's going to give an account to God, to trust him in that.

Tim Lundy (19:06):
You know, Tim and Kathy Keller are a couple I've admired. Tim has pastored in New York City for 30 years. Planted a church, Redeemer Presbyterian Church. It's been a phenomenal church because it just reached out to people who had never been a part of church anymore. And Kathy talked about the struggle in their marriage when even the idea of New York came up. Listen to her words. As she said, in the late 1980s, our family was comfortably situated in a very livable suburb of Philadelphia where Tim held a full-time position as a professor. Then he got an offer to move to New York City to plant a new church. He was excited by that idea, but I was appalled. Raising our three wild boys in Manhattan was unthinkable. Not only that, but almost no one who knew anything about Manhattan thought that the project would be successful. I also knew that this would not be something that Tim would be able to do as a nine to five job. It would absorb the whole family and nearly all our time. It was clear to me that Tim wanted to take the call, but I had serious doubts that it was the right choice.

Tim Lundy (20:14):
Any of you ever been in that place, even in your marriage where you go, man, he really feels like we should do this and you're sitting there and looking at him going, I don't know about this one? I expressed my strong doubts to Tim who responded, well, if you don't want to go, then we won't go. However, I replied, oh no, you don't. You aren't putting this decision on me. That's abdication. Listen to her words. If you think this is the right thing to do, then exercise your leadership and make the choice. It's your job to break this log jam. It's my job to wrestle with God until I can joyfully support your call. Tim made the decision to come to New York and plant Redeemer Presbyterian. The whole family, my sons included, consider it one of the most truly manly things he ever did because he was quite scared, but he felt the call from God. At that point, Tim and I were both submitting to roles that we were not perfectly comfortable with, but it is clear that God worked in us and through us when we accepted these roles as a gift from the designer of our heart.

Tim Lundy (21:34):
It's powerful words because this struggle is not clean. It's not easy. But in those moments, there's a place where God's looking at him and going, okay, if you're going to lead, are you leading well for the best of those in your home? And where he steps out and does that, you may not immediately go, oh, I agree with that. I like her words. She said, it's my job to go wrestle with God until I can support what's going on here. That leads to the second thing. Because it's one thing to just go, okay, I'll submit. But I'm going to have a bad attitude the whole time. The second thing is the attitude. Attitude. And Peter addresses it directly. He says, are you willing to respect him? Do you respect him?

Tim Lundy (22:27):
It's one thing to go, well, I'll do the right thing. But Peter actually addresses the heart in that. And again, I don't know how to describe this to you as women, but respect is so fundamental to who we are as guys. You know, when they done a survey in the past where they ask people and here was the exact question they asked couples. Would you rather be unloved and alone or inadequate and disrespected? About 80% of women said, well, I don't care about inadequacy or disrespect, but I've have to be loved and I don't want to be alone. Men were the opposite. Men said, yeah, okay. The love stuff, yeah, whatever. I got to be respected. 80% of them. It's because it's fundamental to who we are. And part of you, you might go, oh, that's just his ego. No, it actually is probably because it matters more. That's what we feel.

Tim Lundy (23:28):
And you may look at it and go, he knows, I respect him. He knows. Well, how would you feel if he turned it the other way and go, well, she knows, I love her? I told her so the day we got married. So you want to feel it every day, don't you? He does as well. It's interesting, what researchers have stumbled across in the last 20 years, Paul knew about 2,000 years ago. Look at Paul's core command to husbands and wives. However, let each one of you, he's talking to the men, love his wife as himself because that's her core need. And let the wife see that she respects her husband. Because he knew how fundamental this is. Now, again, let me give you a couple of things this does not mean. This does not mean you condone everything he does. That's not respect. That's co-dependency. Does not mean that you cover up for his life, that you don't ever let him face the consequences. Part of respecting him as a man is forcing him to have to deal with this decisions. And I'd encourage you, especially moms with sons, that there comes a point with your sons, especially in those teenage years where there's a breaking that's there that your need to love him has to lessen so that he can learn what it feels to feel your respect as a man.

Tim Lundy (24:53):
Here, let me give you four areas if you just want to think, okay, how do I respect him? One, respect his judgment and abilities. Respect his judgment and abilities. Don't question everything he says. Don't doubt him all the time. Don't always, I mean immediately have some other quotes. One thing a husband never wants to hear. Well, daddy says. Well, you know, my daddy would say. Never goes over well. You know it's even worse? And you could do me a favor. Don't say this. The preacher says, you know, at church, he said. It doesn't help. Now again, if he's saying something that goes against God's Word, man, you respect him enough to call him on it. But there's so many issues of life. If he wants to try to fix the dishwasher, let him. He wants to try something new, let him. Part of just the respect to going, hey, I'm going to just believe the best and cheer for you.

Tim Lundy (25:50):
Secondly, respect him in your behavior. Don't keep secrets. Don't play games. Don't manipulate the budget. Don't do any of those things with it. Part of the respect with your behavior. Third, respect with your communication. Peter says as much. He said, look how Sarah addressed Abram. She called him lord or master. Now again, that was in that culture. That was a way of respect. We don't talk like that today. I can promise you when I come home and walk in, no one says the master is home. How are you, Lord Tim. I mean no one talks like that. But here's what I do know. I know when I come home, there's a culture that's been created where I've been respected before the kids. Nobody's running me down. Nobody's pointing out what I've done wrong. In fact, I'm set up to win in that culture.

Tim Lundy (26:58):
How do you talk about him? How do you talk about him in public? I'm going to tell you, as a guy, there's nothing that makes us wince more than to be with a couple and watch a wife running down her husband. It just, we don't know what to do with it because we know what that means. How do you talk about him when you're with other women? Now hear me. You need a context where you could talk about your husband. I get it. I do. Lea's got a good friend. Her husband's a lot like me and they can compare notes at times and that's healthy. It's a good thing. But here's the question. After you've been in that context with other women and maybe y'all are processing about husbands, do you go home and love him more because of that conversation? Or do you go home with eyes looking at him, going, men. If you're going home with the second one, you need to find some new friends. They're not helping your marriage in it.

Tim Lundy (28:04):
Fourth way I'd say you respect, how do you respect them in your sex life? How do you respect a core fundamental need in his life and make sure that you're engaging in a way that he knows you both love him but you respect this need. Can I just challenge you as ladies, never belittle him over sex. Honestly, don't. Part of it is God's giving him that core drive to bond with you. And when you dismiss it or you just belittle it, it ends up undercutting him too. And this goes both ways, by the way, I do enough counseling with it. There's a lot of women. They're the ones coming into the marriage going, man, he is not respecting our sex life. And so I know this goes both ways, but I know how fundamental this is with men. Do you respect him?

Tim Lundy (29:10):
The third issue that Peter addresses in this and this one even goes deeper in it. It's identity. It's the identity of the woman. The identity you bring into the home, the security you have in that, your value. And at a core level, he says, you can value it externally, you can value it based on looks, you can value all these different things. But the question is, do you find your worth and security in Christ? Do you find it in Christ? Everything he's describing in this passage is risky in some different ways. It forces you to have to both accept what God's leading in, but it also forces you to wrestle with you. And it's sad to me that there's many a wife who she feels the insecurity of as my looks start fading or I'm not as young as I used to be or I've had babies and it changes who I am in that. And she started asking herself, is he going to still love me? Guys, I don't think we understand this as much, how deep it goes, how much our culture puts this on women today.

Tim Lundy (30:35):
In fact, I was looking at, there's an author, Diana Spechler. She launched a site called Body Confessions where people could just put their secret body confession on it. And women flooded it. Listen to what some of the women wrote. One woman said, I constantly compare myself to other women. Another wrote I eat when I'm depressed and then I get more depressed. One woman wrote sometimes when I see a woman fatter than me, I'm glad she's making me look better. Another said, I want to lock myself up until I'm thin again. I constantly compare myself to other women, their weight, their skin, their hair, their clothes. More often than not, I find myself lacking in most areas. I continually base my worth on what other people look like. I don't know how to feel comfortable in my own skin. I love food for how it makes me feel. I hate food for how it makes me feel. I'm incredibly jealous of those people who can eat whatever they want and never gain a pound. I just want to look in the mirror and feel happy.

Tim Lundy (31:43):
And this one I thought particularly wad just telling. She wrote, I hate everything about my body, but I often feel guilty because I should be thankful I even have a healthy body. I have no missing limbs, no diseases, no actual faults. I'm tired and exhausted of hating my blessed body. You know, I read through those and there's a part of this that I just have to stand back and I go, I don't know that we can fully understand this, guys. I just don't think we can. And I think we live in a culture that's only making it worse for our wives, for our daughters, for the women that we go to church with. That's why I think it's so healthy when we step forward and we embrace together that's not how we're going to define ourselves. That's not how I'm going to define you as my wife. Guys, she needs your reassurance and your love. She needs to feel so secure.

Tim Lundy (32:55):
I've talked to some young guys. I had one guy once, he said, well, if I make her feel too secure about how she looks, she might just let herself go. And I just looked at him and I said, you know, in all my years of counseling, I've never seen a woman who was so loved and felt so secure, she decided to let herself go. But I have seen women who felt so pressured and so under the scrutiny that she just looked at him and said, forget it. See, that's part of that leadership we talked about earlier, that putting her first is she should see through you eyes of love that no one else, no one else gets the opportunity to express like you do.

Tim Lundy (33:53):
Let me say this to you, ladies. If you don't experience that first through Christ, no matter what he does as your husband, he can't fill that place in your heart and your life. If you don't find that value and worth in him, in Christ, whether your husband does a good job or a lousy job, you'll still feel the void. If I could give any gift to any woman married or not, I wish you could see yourself the way God sees you. You know, years ago, Dove did a commercial where they brought in a police sketch artist. It was really interesting what they did in it. The artist never saw the different women that came in. They were behind a curtain. But he had them describe themselves and he made a sketch of them. And then they left and then he had them bring in friends of the woman And had them describe the woman. And he made a sketch of that person. And then they brought each of the women forward and they showed them the two sketches.

Tim Lundy (35:11):
In every case, the woman's self-description was so different. Always plainer, always emphasizing every bad character. And it was interesting to me, the pictures of the description of the friends were so accurate and always more beautiful. You know, no one sees you and knows you like Jesus. And more than anything else, notice that Peter ended. He says, you don't have to live afraid. You don't have to live, trying to wonder your value and your worth when you find it in Christ. Ladies, everything that he talks about in this passage, it's risky. It's hard. But you'll need Jesus to do it well. As we conclude up, I want to just ask you if you are married, to just think about those three things. Think about your partnership. Am I freeing up my husband to lead the way God's called him to lead? Think about your attitude. Does my husband feel my respect? Not just that I have it, but he actually feels it. And think about your worth. Am I spending every day measuring who I am based on what I think I see in the mirror, based on what I think I have to do to maintain? Or can I rest in the fact that I have a Savior who loves me? He sees me, He knows me and He gives an invitation to each of us to come to Him and find rest and find the peace at a soul level that frankly, no husband will ever provide like Jesus can.

Tim Lundy (37:38):
There's a part of it that the best of a husband can never do what Christ was meant to do in your life. And the more you embrace that, you know what it does? It frees you up to live the role that he's called you to live. And it also frees you up to actually love the husband He gave you who's not a perfect husband. But you can love him more because you don't need him to be what Christ is supposed to be in you. Let's pray together. Father, we do come before you. We thank you. We thank you for the teaching of your Word. You designed this whole marriage relationship. There's parts of it that are just so rewarding and so life-giving and so joyful. And then there's other parts that are just so hard, that expose us, that make us feel afraid at times or we struggle in it. Lord, I thank that you have given us the ability to love each other, to even go into a covenant relationship for a lifetime. We recognize we wouldn't be able to do this apart from you.

Tim Lundy (38:46):
Lord, I pray specifically for the women and the wives who are here and hearing this. Lord, I pray where your Spirit is calling them to maybe commit again, maybe to step forward in a new way, would you encourage them to have the courage to trust you? Lord, I pray. I pray for each woman who hears this message. I just pray. Could they have a glimpse of what you think of them and how you see them? Lord, as we come to this communion table, we all have a great picture of how much you love us. I pray we would recognize it as we take these elements, knowing what they mean. And we pray this in Christ's name. Amen.

Recorded in Los Gatos, California.
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