How Did We Get Here

Why Do We All Have So Many Family Struggles In Our Homes?

Tim Lundy
Apr 29, 2019    41m
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In the first message of this new series, we will examine the first story of a family, Adam and Eve, to understand why every family struggles. The reality is no family is perfect and we all carry shame over family struggles. However, every family can find hope and move forward with God. Video recorded at Los Gatos, California.

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Tim Lundy (00:00):
I want to take a moment before we dive into this new series and just tell you my personal thanks for last weekend. I really appreciate it. I can't tell you how many of you I saw serving throughout the week, saw you serving on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Just as a church family as a whole, the way everyone works so hard. Thank you for inviting friends, neighbors. Hopefully, we've got some new people here with us. For those who were visiting and came back, we are so glad that you're here. Last weekend was an awesome experience. And as I look at it, it dovetails really well because last week was a great weekend to have a lot of people come here. Next weekend is our opportunity as a church to send a lot of people outward. And we say that over and over as a church, it's not just what we do in this room.

Tim Lundy (00:49):
It's being the kind of people that God's called us to be in the community. And so next weekend, you know, Murph told you. It's outreach weekend. We're going to go and take about 800 to 900 people to Foxworthy Baptist and blitz that campus in one weekend because of all the ministries, all the outreach, the homeless that are reached, all that are happening there. But in one weekend, we can go as a church and literally change the whole place, both the grounds. We want to paint it inside out. We want it to be the kind of place that somebody that left on a Friday and came back on a Monday would say, who did this? Why did they do this? Because this is what it means to be a church. And so I want to encourage you. We're serving I think it's about four hour blocks.

Tim Lundy (01:36):
You can do Saturday morning, Saturday afternoon, Sunday morning, Sunday afternoon. Just pick one, sign up, go serve with us. And I know some of you right now go well, Tim, if I do that, how do I do that? And then go to service both. It'll challenge my weekend. It literally, if you only have time to do one next weekend, go serve. And I don't say that because I don't want you here. We're going to have an awesome message next week by the way so you don't want to miss that. I don't say it for that reason. But I say it if we really mean that being the church is not just what we do in this room, these are the kinds of weekends where it matters. If we really want to be the kind of church that if we disappear tomorrow, our neighbors would grieve because of the way that we love them, so that we let her the light shine in a way that they see your good works and they give glory to God.

Tim Lundy (02:31):
I want to call, it's one of my favorite times of the year, beautiful day and all these. From what we're doing, it's beautiful day. For the night of prayer Thursday night, and then to be able to finish it off on Sunday night with a great concert and be a part of International Justice Mission. That is a weekend worth marking. So make sure you sign up. You don't want to miss out. We only have about 600 spots left. And so Saturday night crowd, you get first dibs on it at the table with it. If we go over, we'll maybe take a few more with us as well. Why don't we take a moment just to pray and then we'll jump into our message? Father, I thank you. I do thank you so much for what you're doing both on this campus but also out in the community.

Tim Lundy (03:14):
Lord, I thank you how people at Venture are loving their neighbors well. And there's people serving all over our city and across the bay. Lord, we thank you next weekend that we get to go love our neighbors. I look at all that Foxworthy Baptist is doing and the way they have taken their building and turned it into a ministry hub and they're giving themselves away and to be able to come alongside them and do what you've allowed us to do, to bless them, to serve them, to make a statement that this is what it means to be a part of Christ's family. This is what it means to give Him glory. Lord, I thank you that as we dive into this new series, we can talk about family without shame because you're not a father who shames us. You're a father who loves us. And so I pray that you would speak even now. In Christ's name. Amen.

Tim Lundy (04:15):
Well, as you saw from the graphic, we are starting a new series this weekend entitled No Perfect Family. And the reality is every family struggles in different ways, some more than others. Some families struggle with kids. Some families struggle with in-laws and extended family. Some couples really struggle. I heard about a couple that had fought their whole marriage. They were married almost 60 years. Fought like cats and dogs. And they were finally in a retirement home together, but they were fighting so much and it was so noisy that the people that ran the retirement home came to them and said, if you don't stop fighting, we're kicking you out. And so the wife sat down with her husband. She said, Joe, we need to talk. I've been thinking about this. I've been praying about it. You and I fight all the time. Neither one of us will admit who's right and who's wrong. So we're going to let God decide. Here's what we're going to do. We're going to pray that one of us dies. And he looked at her and he said, I think that's a great idea. She said, yeah, we're going to pray that one of us dies. And after the funeral, I'll go live with my sister.

Tim Lundy (05:30):
Now, hopefully, there's better answers than Joe and his wife came up with. But the reality is all of us struggle as families. And it's hard because there's this image in culture. I mean you say the word family and everybody immediately kind of goes to that, you know, perfect husband, perfect wife, model looks, totally in shape. They got the 2.4 kids and the minivan and the smiles that when they all smile, it kind of ding. You know? And they can pose in a moment. They take perfect pictures. The kids are all getting great grades. They go on these awesome vacations. Everybody's happy all the time. And then you bring it into the church and it gets even harder because you take that perfect family. And they're always sitting around the table having these perfect devotions and their kids always obey and nobody plays video games. And they just like to read all the time. And they're just out, sir. I mean you just, you see it and you look at it and you go, that's what it feels like.

Tim Lundy (06:32):
And then we look at our families. You can own most feel like you're always missing out or not measuring up. You know, I grew up in a very strong Christian home. I mean we went to church every week. Great Bible believing church. In fact, we went twice on Sunday, Sunday morning and Sunday night. That's how committed we were. And I'm so thankful for the good things of it, but you know, it was a very dysfunctional home. Lost a father when I was six years old and saw the trauma of that. Saw the life of a blended family when my mom remarried. Had a step-sister and then four other siblings. And we tried to figure it out together. Saw the impact of bipolar behavior, the impact of depression. As we grew up, saw the impact on siblings with it as you saw divorce with my mom and my stepfather and then divorces with siblings and saw an addiction with my brother and saw another sibling go to jail for a little bit of time. I mean I've seen dysfunction. Some of you right now are going, you're more screwed up than we realized.

Tim Lundy (07:48):
And I've had the joy of having a family now. But it's not perfect. It's not traumatic as what I grew up in, but it's not a perfect family. It's got its pain and struggle. And as we dive into this series, I think for all of us, just beginning it with take a deep breath. It's okay no matter where you are. Because I love teaching on this because I believe God actually has hope for any home, any family no matter what your situation, whether you're married, whether you're single, whether you're divorced, whether you're trying to rebuild again, whether you never married. There's hope for every family and there's actually practical truth in Scripture for every family. In fact, to begin I thought to really understand where we're going, we got to understand where we came from. If you've got your Bibles, you can turn to the very beginning of it, to Genesis 3.

Tim Lundy (08:52):
I want us to look backwards because I think in looking back, we understand ourselves more. Genesis is such a primary book. Not only tells us how we got here, but the stories of Genesis help us understand our stories. And we recognize what has been going on. Beginning of Genesis, you remember the very first family was Adam and Eve. Very beginning, first thing God does is create a family and everything's perfect. They're literally in the Garden of Eden. God gave them a commissioning. He says, fill the earth, subdue the earth. You're in partnership together. And all of it is yours. All of it is yours to control, to dominate, to expand in it. Only one thing you can't do. You can't eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. That's the only rule that God's put in place with them. And as you look to this passage in Genesis 3, this passage is so fundamental because it helps us understand a lot about our lives, ourselves, our own struggles. But it also helps us understand a lot about families.

Tim Lundy (09:57):
How did we get this way? Why is it so hard? Why are we so screwed up at times? If you look at it, first part of the passage, I just want to look at seven factors, seven factors that hurt every family. These are seven things that you'll see it in our culture today. Even though this was written and it speaks of a family thousands of years ago, it's just as true today. And look at the first factor. First factor is a culture that questions God's authority and truth. It's a culture that questions the way God set up things and especially His authority to do so and what He stated in it. Read with me, starting in verse 1. Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. And he said, now this should stand out to us first of all.

Tim Lundy (10:47):
There were talking snakes back then. And we don't know if this is a one-time snake or if all the snakes could. We do know for the rest of Scripture, it's not just the snake talking though. It's actually Satan, this fallen angel, this demon who hates what God set up. And so the serpent, he was craftier than any other beast. He said to the woman, did God actually say you shall not eat of any tree in the garden. And the woman said to the serpent, we may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden, but God said, you shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden. And then she kind of adds her own line. Neither shall you touch it, lest you die. And then he says, but the serpent said to the woman, you will not surely die for God knows that when you eat of it, your eyes will be opened and you'll be like God, knowing good and evil.

Tim Lundy (11:48):
Look at the two things with it. And it's been the same strategy and you hear over and over again. The first strategy is questioning did God really say that? Is that what He really said? And when she clarifies what God said, notice the second part is, well, is that really true? I mean is that really going to happen? Don't you think you're being held out on a little bit? Don't you think life would be maybe a little better if you didn't do that? We live in a culture today, there's no talking snakes. But we have devices talking at us all the time.

Tim Lundy (12:29):
There's movies, there's phones, online, social media. I mean there's voices going all the time. And you know what? They're still using the same two lines, especially when it comes to family. Over and over again, you'll hear, look on any message board, look on any website, look at what's going on in the culture. And the two lines they go back to again and again is what did God really say that about the family? Did God really draw those boundaries? Did God really say marriage is between a man and a woman only? Did God really say this is what sexuality is about? Did God, I mean you'll hear it over and over again. A lot of people will speak very clearly and they'll go, they'll ask that question. Well, is that really what God said? And then if you answer and say, well, let me point out what the Bible says on these topics, they come with the second line.

Tim Lundy (13:19):
Well, is that part of the Bible really true? Are you really going to hold to that? Are you going to get that strict about things? I mean it's the same tape, guys. And it's been going and going, and it is in our ears all the time. When it's there enough look, what happens. The second thing, the second point that you see in it. Then you have waves of temptation and ongoing deception. When you have a culture that's constantly coming and especially questioning God, questioning His truth, questioning where those lines are, the next level of it is waves of temptation and deception. Look as the verse continues on. So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food and that it was a delight to the eyes, that the tree was desired to make one wise. Notice, she's looking at it. Oh, this looks good.

Tim Lundy (14:13):
The more she looks at it, she goes, man, I want that. And then she's talking herself into it. Well, maybe it will make us smarter. Maybe God is holding out. She took of the fruit and she ate. And she also gave to her husband who by the way, was with her the whole time. He's just standing there. She gives it to him and he ate it. She gets fixated on it. Oh man, I do want that. Yes, yes. And the more she thinks about it, she talks herself into it. And then finally, she grabs it and I can just picture her like, hey, come here, Adam, take a selfie. We're eating the fruit. Yolo. You only live once. Click. And thanks to Adam and Eve, that is true. You only live once because of their choices.

Tim Lundy (15:13):
Guys, the same is true today, that at some point you keep entertaining the lie, some point you keep getting unhappy enough in a marriage, some point you keep getting dissatisfied. And suddenly, those things that seem so clear, suddenly get very attractive. I know people that have hurt, deeply hurt loved ones, and they never planned on it. In fact, they'll say to me later, I don't know how I got there, except that I just kept thinking about it and wanting it. Look what happens when you do that. It leads to the third thing, shame and hiding from God, shame and hiding from God. Look as the passage continues right after they eat, then the eyes of both of them opened and they knew that they were naked and they sewed fig leaves together and they made themselves loincloths. They heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden at the cool of day.

Tim Lundy (16:17):
And the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. I mean as soon as they eat what was going to be so good now brings waves of shame. What had been so open and free now is shameful. And you always know shame, the two parts of it. Shame always, you cover up and you hide. I've got to cover myself. So they grab fig leaves and try to cover their bodies. And then God comes and instead of having this great open relationship with Him, now they're hiding from Him. You know, when you dive deep into family, it is amazing the amount of shame that people carry. Sometimes it's just shame over the relationship. Like your marriage is really struggling, but if you're in the church or you're a Christian, it's almost like I'm ashamed to admit that. We were supposed to have it together more. Sometimes it's sexual shame, shame over struggles with pornography, shame over struggles with sexual history. Sometimes it's shame related to your kids. They're struggling and you can't tell anybody.

Tim Lundy (17:39):
Shame over debt, shame over addictions. And it's I think almost harder within the church because the one place you'd want to talk to people more, they're the very people you find yourself trying to cover it up and hide. And the problem with a culture like ours, we can afford some pretty expensive fig leaves. We can cover it up with maybe a better house or maybe some more toys or maybe a new trip will do it or maybe we do some more activities or maybe if we get involved in a cause or even get more involved in church. I'll just throw myself into serving here because I can't really deal with what's going on there. And we grab at our own fig leaves and try to hide.

Tim Lundy (18:29):
Then it leads to the fourth thing, blaming each other and ultimately God. Blaming each other. Look as it continues. They may be hiding, but a love God never lets us stay hidden. But the Lord God called to the man and he said to him, where are you? And he said, well, I heard the sound of you in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked and I hid myself. God said, Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat? And here's our boy, Adam, he steps forward and he says, well, the woman you gave me, she gave me the fruit of the tree and I ate. Well, that's really manly, isn't it? Then the Lord said to the woman, what is it that you've done? And the woman said, well, the serpent deceived me and I ate. I mean immediately when God asked them, what did they start doing? They start blaming. It wasn't really my fault.

Tim Lundy (19:33):
I mean she gave it to me. And the woman goes, well the serpent. And then notice what they're ultimately doing. They're really looking at God. Well, God, you were the one that gave me her. God, you're the one that let this serpent be here. God, it's your fault. It's amazing when you get in crisis as a family or crisis personally, when it's especially painful, it's just easier to blame. I remember once I had a couple that came into my office and they told me they were having some marital problems. When they sat down and started, I said, so what's the problem here? And I noticed she's sitting right next to him and he starts taking his head and he starts going. Finally, I looked at him and said, by the motions of your head, I'm assuming you're saying she's the problem here.

Tim Lundy (20:36):
And then she turned. I mean it was like she went red with rage. And I was like oh, I think he was right. May have been part of problem. I mean anytime you do counseling with that though, it's so easy to just see what they did, see what they have done. And if you get stuck in blame long enough and you go deep enough, it's so easy to blame God. God, my life is not where it's supposed to be. My marriage isn't where it's supposed to be. I wasn't supposed to be single here. I certainly wasn't supposed to be divorced. God, how did this happen?

Tim Lundy (21:20):
And when God starts describing to them the impact of their sin, look, it goes even deeper. Look at the fifth thing. There's pain in parenting, especially for her. There's pain in parenting, especially for her. Why do I say that? Well, He looks at the woman, He said to the woman, He said, I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing. In pain, you shall bring forth children. Now in childbearing, He's not just talking about birth. While it is the most painful and as men, we can't even understand that, the Hebrew here is it's actually, He's talking about everything from conception onward. What was supposed to be this place of greatest joy, having children, especially for her. To be a life giver as a woman, to be able to have a child is now marked by pain too. And that pain doesn't just stop at birth, does it? In fact, again, it's not saying that fathers don't carry the pain of their children. But let's just be honest, they don't carry it to the same depth that a mother does.

Tim Lundy (22:33):
It's been said that a mother is only as happy as her saddest child. There's just something about her heart that she carries that. And when you have pain over your children, it impacts the whole household. When your children are struggling with depression or anxiety, when your children are struggling with addiction, when your children are struggling in their marriages and their homes, it just marks you. Not only that, look at the sixth thing is He says to Adam. The pain in work, especially for him. The pain in work, especially for him. He looks at Adam and to Adam, He said, because you've listened to the voice of your wife, you've eaten of the tree which I commanded you, you shall not eat of it, cursed is the ground because of you. In pain, you shall eat of it the days of your life. Thorns and thistles, it shall bring forth in you. You shall eat of the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face, you shall eat bread till you return to the ground. For out of it, you were taken for your dust and to dust you shall return.

Tim Lundy (23:50):
Now notice what He's saying. In the same way, filling the earth, that core command is now marked by pain and subduing the earth, conquering it, work that was supposed to be so life-giving and joyful is now marked by toil. It's hard. Sweat of your brow. And again, he's not saying, oh, women don't feel that. But he feels it at a core. I mean He looks at Adam and He says, you're going to feel this. And there's many a man who struggled with those verses right there, where work becomes harder than it should be, where it's more toil, where he looks up and he goes, am I making a difference? Is this done in vain? And he keeps throwing himself at it. And the reality is it doesn't just stay with them at work. It comes home and impacts his family too. Many a marriage has been impacted by his work. Many a child has lost their dad for years because he was determined he was going to beat this curse. The impact in a home and a family.

Tim Lundy (25:05):
The final part for a couple, the impact of it, couples who cycle between control and domination just in their relationship. There's a little verse in there in Genesis 3:16. When he looks at Eve and he says, at the worst of your relationship, you're not talking about the best, the worst of your relationship, your desire shall be contrary to your husband. Word here literally means you're going to want to control him at your worst. When you're not trying to make this work, when you just want life to be about you, as a woman, you're just trying to control him. And at his worst, he'll rule over you. The word there is literally dominate. He said, instead of being in this partnership that works together, you at your worst as a woman, man, you're going to try to control whether it's through domination, whether it's through manipulation, whether it's through just wanting your way. That's the worst of you. And the worst of him, he just uses his strength. He just uses his will and he just determines I'll just dominate you. I'll do what I want. And you can look at that cycle and the couples that fight in that.

Tim Lundy (26:21):
Now let's just stop for a moment because it got real somber in here. As you look through that list of seven things, any of those impact in your home? Do you feel any of those things? If we're honest here, there's not a person in this room that's not impacted one way another. And you might look at this part and if you look at this part of the story, you might go man, hope is lost. And I look at it and go, what does this mean for us? Now, again, let's step back in history because remember this is the first family. Satan was the one that tempted them because he was determined if he could ruin it here, God would be done with us. And the most shocking thing I think in history is that God had a plan even for our failure. And He had a plan for that first family and He had a plan for every family since then.

Tim Lundy (27:28):
And as depressing as it is to read what happened from the start of the story to the point we just left it, it's a pretty depressing passage because we recognize all the problem we're dealing with the world really goes back to this passage. And all the problems we ever deal with in any home, it starts in this passage. But also in this passage, there's still hope, not because Adam and Eve got their act together and not because we're such great people. But we serve a great God and He's a good father. Look at the end of the passage as we end. Because I want us to leave looking at four places of hope and these are four steps to move forward for any family, for any family that's here, any family that's a part, any person in that. The first step is you got to trust that God has a plan to overcome. You've got to trust that God has a plan.

Tim Lundy (28:27):
Even when Adam and Eve rebel against God in this moment of rebellion, there's this one verse in there, in Genesis 3:15. I love it because God looks at the snake. He looks at the serpent and He's talking not just to the snake really. He's talking to Satan. And He's looking at him and He says, you think you've won here. You think you've destroyed what I'm doing with humanity. Look at what He says. He says to the snake, He said, I'm going to put enmity between you And the woman, between your offspring and her offspring. He, and this he here is pointing to someone that will come through the woman. It's pointing to Jesus. Look what He declares. He shall bruise your head. You shall bruise his heel. I don't really like the ESV as much in this. This word bruise here is literally strike, crush.

Tim Lundy (29:29):
So he looks at Satan and he says, hey, I know that you have tempted her. They have together made this act because of his violation and that sin's entered into world. But even in the midst of this failure, I still have a plan. And He's pointing to a day when Jesus will die on the cross. Yet you're going to strike his heel. Literally, He'll have nails through his hands and his feet. You're going to strike Him. He will die that day, but He's going to crush you. Because I've got a plan that's bigger than you. And I'm going to tell you if God didn't give up on Adam and Eve in the garden, if God didn't give up on humanity, if God had a plan in the middle of their failure, here's what you could hold onto today. He's got a plan for your home too.

Tim Lundy (30:25):
And I don't care what you've done. I don't care what you've experienced. If God can redeem there, He can redeem here. He can redeem in your home. But you got to hold onto that. You have to believe that. To do that, you've got to change the way you treat each other as well. Look at the second thing. Stop blaming and speak words of life to each other. Stop blaming and speak words of life. You get caught in that cycle of blame where it's constantly their fault and you're constantly looking at what they did or constantly my boss's fault or it's constantly somebody else's fault, you got to stop the blaming. And then in that, step back. Somebody in the home, somebody in your life and that somebody is you has got to say, you know, I'm going to speak differently here. One of my favorite parts of this story about Adam because Genesis 3 is not Adam's finest moment especially as a man.

Tim Lundy (31:28):
I mean instead of being the spiritual leader God called him to be, instead of stepping forward and intervening, when he sees his wife having a dialogue she shouldn't be. She shouldn't be talking to this serpent. Man, that's when you step forward Adam. Instead of just stopping and going, wait, we can't do this. This isn't what God said. I mean in all these moments. In fact, the last thing we see out of his mouth, he's blaming. Blaming her. Blaming God. But a little bit later in the chapter, Adam still had one more task to do. Remember God had told Adam, you have to name everything. He named all the animals because he was first. It's kind of like being a parent. You get to give the name. And at this point, the woman doesn't even have a name until verse 20. Look at it. Then Adam called his wife's name Eve because she was the mother of all the living. This is interesting to me because think about it at this point in the story. All the things he could have named her.

Tim Lundy (32:35):
I mean it'd be a great place to go, well, I'm going to name you the deceived one. I'm going to name you fruit eater. We're always going to remember you ate at first. I'm going, I mean you think of all the things he could have named. But in that moment, he names her Eve. Know what the word Eve means? Giver of life. There's something unique about her. She is going to be able to carry a baby. She's going to be able to give life. It's through her that promise of the one to come. Man, for the first time in the story, Adam steps up and does something right? And I want to encourage you. Some of you need to just stop in your house saying what you're saying. You need to stop speaking words of spite, words of blame, words that are hurtful And step forward, speak words of life, words of the future, words of hope with what God could do.

Tim Lundy (34:01):
To do that though, number three, you got to receive the sacrifice of Christ to cover your shame. You have to receive the sacrifice. To deal with shame, somebody has to deal with it. Look how God deals with it in this passage. It's interesting. The Lord God made for Adam and for his wife garments of skins and clothed them. You realize what this means? Animals had to die. And I think that that alone shocked Adam and Eve. You got to remember they had more connection to the creation than we can imagine. They loved the animals. He named them. But God said big leaves aren't going to do. There's a sacrifice that's made. In fact, it's the first picture we have of the whole sacrificial system that will come with animals that ultimately point to the greatest sacrifice, the sacrifice of Christ. To cover their shame, to cover what we've done.

Tim Lundy (35:17):
Guys, forgiveness is free, but it is costly. And I think in that moment for the lesson for them to suddenly realize, oh, we are covered by God. But someone had to pay the cost. Now I would just challenge you here, if you're a family that's dealing with shame, especially if it's hidden. Remember we have all different ways of hiding it, especially if we do the spiritual hiddenness. There's a lot of people I know that you tell yourself God, and I'll deal with it alone but I can't let anybody else know. I would encourage you, one, all of us had to receive the sacrifice of what Christ did and two, there's such health, instead of hiding, we invite someone into the journey with us, someone that can love us and show us that grace.

Tim Lundy (36:22):
There's one last part to the story as Adam and Eve have to now face a new beginning. Remember there was not just the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. There's also the tree of life that was there. And apparently, if you ate from this tree, you would live forever. You'd keep living. And so God said in this condition, now that they're fallen people, now that they're in this state, that would not be good. And look what He did. He posts, therefore the Lord God sent him out from the garden of Eden to work the ground from which he was taken. He drove out the man and at the East of the garden of Eden, he placed the cherubim and the angel with a flaming sword that turned every way to guard the way to the tree of life. In other words, He says, guys, you don't get to live in Eden.

Tim Lundy (37:17):
And He actually sent them out and placed an angel there that no one will experience this. I would just encourage you as a final point for all of us that you have to leave Eden behind for what God has ahead of you. You got to leave Eden. Sometimes family didn't turn out the way you thought it was going to be. Sometimes your marriage is harder than you ever expected it to be. Sometimes your kids didn't become what you thought they were going to be. Or you look up at a point in life and you're alone whether by divorce or the spouse you thought was going to be here. In all these situations as you walk through this, as you hold onto the fact that God still has a plan, as you hold onto the fact that I'm not going to spend my life blaming, as you hold onto the fact that Christ's sacrifice covers whatever has been done.

Tim Lundy (38:25):
But there comes a place, and I've seen this a lot talking to people, that God's asked you to move forward. Sometimes Eden is just an idea you were desperately holding onto and it's over. Maybe the greatest act of faith is trusting God with what He has ahead. Trust in God with what he has ahead for you as a couple or you as an individual or in your household. Believing that He has something better for you. Not perfect because we're not perfect. We're exactly like the people we read about in this story. But we serve a perfect God and He has a plan and a hope for every home and every person.

Tim Lundy (39:26):
Over the next several weeks, we're going to really drill down what does that look like in different areas of life? What does that look like for couples? What does it look like when you're trying to do this as a parent? What does it look like when you're dealing with this level of dysfunction in different ways? We'll drill down in all of it. But today, today, there's a starting place of just embracing, all right, God, I'm going to trust you again. I'm going to believe Christ's sacrifice is not just something we celebrate on Easter. It's something I need in a house right now. And I'm going to call you and step forward to what you've placed in front of me instead of living my life staring backwards at what I thought Eden was. Guys, it may be the hardest step of faith you take. But I promise you, God will meet you in it. Let's pray.

Tim Lundy (40:23):
Father, I thank you. I thank you for just the truth of your Word, the truth of just these stories, help us understand how we got here, to see that humanity has struggled with this from that time forward. Lord, it gives me great hope though that you had a plan even then. You knew what we would do, and yet you still love us. Lord, I pray for any person here, any family here, any couple here that they are struggling. And the evil one wants them to give up, wants them to focus on everything else. Lord, I pray they would trust you, believe you, embrace you. And know that your grace is always readily available to every single home. And we pray this in Christ's name. Amen.

Recorded in Los Gatos, California.
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16845 Hicks Road
Los Gatos, California 95032
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